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Post by carebear on Dec 13, 2004 11:13:45 GMT -5
I had my first exchange yesterday. It went very well, except for two people that just did not get it. I had one girl that wanted to spilt her recipes and I cleary stated If you spilt the recipes it will be 3 dozen of each. Well she didn't understand that if one batch of cookies didn't make 3 dozen you will have to make another batch. Needless to say one of her batches made 4 dozen the other kind of cookie she was making made 2 dozen!!!!!!!!! Well she didn't understand that it will screw the exchange up...well I had her husband yelling at me calling my party stupid and cookies are cheap who cares if someone will be short I was just beside myself that someone had to suffer because of her stupidty. And even before she decided to make cookies and come to my party she was complaining that making 6 dozen is way too much for people to make.......the only person complaining!!! and she DOESN'T WORK!!!!!!!!! I work and have a child and made my cookies plus extra and cleaned and cooked and got the party ready with decorations etc..... Ok thanks for letting me vent....LOL
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Post by carebear on Dec 13, 2004 11:24:36 GMT -5
OOH!! I forgot to tell you about the other girl. She didn't want to come because she has a son that has diabetes and the cookies will be a temptation to him....Ok I completely understand that. I said to her she can still come and eat and socialize but she will not be able to exchange. So she decided she will come. A couple of days later she is at a christmas party (which was the day before my party and I could not go because I had too much to do) and my husband attended the party and heard her say to her husband "i'm bringing home some good cookies tomorrow" Well my husband goes up to her and says I didn't think you were exchanging she said I'm not and he explained to her you have to bring cookies to the exchange to take cookies home and she rolled her eyes and looked at her husband and said Thats why I didn't want to go. I don't know where she got the idea that she can still can get cookies without bringing any, and still exchang and then I thought hey I thought she couldn't take any home because of the temptation to her son hmmmmmmmmm I think she got the idea I can still go and not make any cookies and still get cookies!!!! well then I am going. Well she did bring a bottle of wine and there was a women there that said she was not taking all of her cookies and that me and my husband can have them,.......well the women heard that and said "Well I brought a bottle of wine I should be able to take something" she took the rest of the cookies, can you believe some people!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by Bonnie on Dec 13, 2004 11:59:16 GMT -5
Yep I can believe people do these things. One year (I believe it was my second exchange) one of the ladies I invited told a friend of hers (we all live in the same neighborhood) that I was having and exchange and encouraged her to call me to invite herself. I was shocked to say the least! I already had 12 coming and really didn't want any more (since I had already purchased my favors, etc.). I told her that this was not a neighborhood event but my own personal cookie exchange. She was really put off and then asked "well what day are you having it anyway!" I told her and she said in a very curt way "I can't attend anyway - I have plans that day!"
I thought I was pretty polite considering this woman has never been overly friendly to me and considering the fact that she called to invite herself. Actually her words on the phone to me were "I heard you are having a cookie exchange and I would like to come!" She said this in a very demanding way which I did not appreciate. Keeping in mind that she has never invited me to anything (nor has the other lady - her friend - that I did invite).
Needless to say I did not invite either to my third exchange. Basically that is my advice for future cookie exchanges you may have - don't invite those two ladies back. If they didn't like the way you did your exchange let them have their own.
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Post by Joann on Dec 17, 2004 10:35:58 GMT -5
I agree,,, 2 people not to have back. I guess because I am a baker, this is not a hard concept for me, but maybe so for other people. I have had people not want to make their cookies and I have invited them anyway just to eat and solicalize, but they usually decline anyway saying they wouldn't feel right since they aren't swapping. Now as to someone inviting themselves, I say the more the merrier. More than likely, there will probably be at least one no show due to illness. And if you are really only having your neighbors and it is another neighbor who asks, that can get a bit sticky. I invite my whole neighborhood Bunko group, knowing full well, many of them don't care about this or they are not people I may be overly fond of, but, it seems easier that way no one can say I was left out, because it seems like all routes of gossipt tunnel through that group.
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Post by Bonnie on Dec 17, 2004 17:16:44 GMT -5
Isn't that the truth! What is it about the Bunko groups that lend itself to gossip. Our neighborhood is small but has one controlling click - they control everything including the Bunko group. I usually invite those who I am friends with who are not part of that click. I would have been glad to include this woman but her attitude was more like "excuse me but I think you forgot me." I don't like people assuming that since they are part of a "special" group they are allowed to push their was into anything going on in the neighborhood. I think if it had souly been a neighborhood group I probably would have included her. On the other hand in all the years I have lived here she has not included me in any of her "neighborhood" activities.
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